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March 7, 2017

Chasing your dream in the age of Procrastination

by Raymond Forte

I am a young person in business and I have found that my biggest challenge is not your competition or the current economic state; it’s procrastination. In a world full of distractions, I think people generally find any excuse not to do something that’s important or simply put off doing it for a little while. Why is this?

Maybe it’s because you lack the skills. For example, when you start playing football the one thing that puts a lot of people off from advancing their game is heading the ball. The fear you might hurt your head. I was like this so I put off heading the ball for a long time.Another reason could be a lack of motivation. If you do not like doing something it can completely be unmotivating to you. You have to understand that most successful people do things they don’t like doing, especially when they were nobodies. They did the things that other people won’t. Think of any successful person: Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Richard Branson, 50 Cent…those guys put in an endless amount of hours in order to achieve their goals. 50 Cent once said ”I worked so hard I forgot to eat” and ”Sleep is for those people who are broke”. I am not a mind reader but I doubt they enjoyed working over 90 hours a week. How many people work that hard?

The successful people don’t care what’s on TV, what football team is playing or if their friends are going out on the town every week. Trying to be successful doesn’t mean you can’t be sociable. In fact, most successful people are sociable but they put in the work and not worry about a social life for a while. I am not yet successful, I believe one day I will be. I don’t ”socialize” a lot, but I see my closest friends all the time. I remember an old teacher of mine said, ”If you have five good friends in this world, you are doing well and you are blessed”. This came from one of the few teachers I respected in my school. I looked up to him a lot and when I talk to him I always still call him ‘sir’. It was something that I realized is so true. So many people will pretend to be your friend. I have many friends I see every now and then, but I feel so lucky with my circle. I think everyone should have a circle. Friends that you are close to who you can trust. I tell you, opening my business, the months leading up to it, I found out exactly who my friends are. If my business ever fails, I know exactly what friends will stick by me and the ones who won’t. I just know. You don’t need to go out every weekend and try to be friends with everyone. I see this happening every week with people and to be honest, I feel sorry for them. If you are trying to achieve something make sure you have good friends. It is so important. Mine knows my situation and never cause any drama or arguments if I have to change plans late. In fact, they like it in a way because they know I am chasing my dream. I respect that so much.

The fear of failure. Ah. This is a big one. The majority of people are terrified of trying something and failing. I think the word ‘fail’ is a strong word. To me, opening a business and it’s not working out, is not ‘failing’. Failing is never knowing what could have been. If my business fails, I wouldn’t consider myself a failure. I would spend a lot of time reflecting where I went wrong and to be fully honest with you, I have made a lot of mistakes but as long as you LEARN from them its okay. I think it’s important to understand that. Everyone makes mistakes even the most successful. In fact, most of the super successful people actually failed in their first attempts in business. One thing they didn’t fail at is giving up. They persevere and persevere until they get it.

I think procrastination is… fake. It’s an excuse. What you need to do is figure out what’s important to you. Once you know this you will be focused. Once you are focused you’ll work hard. One thing you must question to yourself every time you think of doing something is, ”Will what I am about to do, bring me further!?”. If you have a dream of opening your own business, watching silly videos on YouTube won’t get you into the business world. It might be a two or three-minute video, but the problem is you’ll watch another one, then another one and another one then a Facebook notification comes in and a text message then a snapchat. All of a sudden hours have been wasted, the focus has been lost, your dream of opening a business has been delayed and at this point, is it ever going to happen if you don’t change? What you need is a good team around you. My team is my circle that I talked about earlier. You need to surround yourself with people who are motivated and hungry and who will HELP YOU conquer your dreams. These are positive people who share the same vision and principles as you do. If you hang around negative people then guess what; you too will be negative. Negativity is something you don’t need to chase your dreams. It’s poison. What you need is willpower. And you must have the right circle to have the willpower.  If you really want what you desire then go get it. And never give in.

Realising you are procrastinating is important. The question is, how do we overcome it? Remember, to become successful you will have to do the work. Here are three techniques to stop procrastinating:

  1. Make your goal seem much easier: Say, for example, your goal is to become physically fit. Don’t think of yourself running a marathon in two because it’s not going to happen. Start by exercising a little bit every day. Maybe 30 minutes to start off then slowly build yourself up more. Be better today than what you were yesterday.
  2. A question that I earlier listed, ”Will what I am about to do, bring me further!?”. Will what you are about to do help you achieve your goals? How will it make you feel after doing it? I promise you, working on your goal for a couple hours will satisfy you much more than funny videos on YouTube.
  3. Ultimate Goal vs. Immediate Desire: An immediate desire always has a greater chance of you doing it than your ultimate goal. It is the much easier option. Take for example your goal is to quit smoking. Your ultimate goal is to cut it out but your immediate desire is to light one up. What you need to do is switch immediate desire with the ultimate goal. Ask yourself, would you like good health, cleaner teeth and better skin or a cigarette? If you don’t care about your health now when will you? Get my point.

Overcoming procrastination is hard but, like all good things, it takes time.

Thank you for reading. I would love to hear your feedback, good or bad, it won’t bother me. Please like my business page on Facebook . I am considering writing more blogs and maybe create a website with a proper design and look and domain but would need a team of writers so if you are interested in a project like this let me know.

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